Yesterday my son started singing a song. Not one that’s on the radio but one I’m sure you’ve all heard of. It goes “I love you, you love me, were a happy family, with a great big hug and a kiss from me to you, wont you say you love me too” except that wasn’t the version he was singing. His went something like this “I hate you, you hate me, everybody …………”. I don’t know the rest of it because he was mumbling and I really don’t care to hear it but it shocked me to hear him saying such things.
Now I know every mother always wants to think the best of the child(ren) but when it comes to Jr I know my child and he is not one that is violent or full or hate or anything like that. He is actually a very kind soul. So imagine my shock when I heard him say that. I talked to him about saying such things and how hate is a very strong word and we don’t use it in this house. He apologized said he wont sing it again.
And now I’m sitting here thinking how popular the word hate has become. Anytime any dislikes something/anything their first response is to say they hate it. I will admit that when I was growing up it was a word I used frequently for the exact reasons I named above. I don’t want my kids following in my footsteps with using that word.
According to Urban Dictionary the first definition to come up when you search hate is ” a special kind of love given to people who suck”. The second one is “when you dislike someone so much that if you and the other person were in an empty room with a knife in the middle, one or both would be dead”. The only thing I can say is wow and are you serious! This is what our children, the future generations feel hate is?
Now the definition on Dictionary.com in my opinion is more accurate “to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry”.
How is it that a word so full of negativity can be used in daily life as if it were something normal, and being used to describe another person. It makes me sad that this is the reality today and I know that I am only one person and that I cannot change the way society as a whole thinks, but my goal for my family is to not let my children be influenced by others into thinking that hate is an acceptable word to use unless it is used sincerely and NOT about about person or simply don’t use it at all. It is fine to dislike someone but hate is such a strong word and I would hope and pray that my children never feel extreme hostility towards another human being.